Do Officials Ever Make You Feel Like Quitting?

[blind1]

I assume the ref is the same as the ref on the Halstead Town site match report?

 

I know a few ref that look at a lot of club websites trying to find out what is going on etc.

 

I take alot of interest in Eton Manor as I know them as a club as far back as when they were playing at Roding Lane in Buckhurst Hill... but I do not know any of your players / management???

 

It should not be a them and us situation - the game is bigger than that and is for the enjoyment of everyone!!!

[Kaiser Jnr]

I agree with the above too...

 

Ref's should be able to understand that players do get frustrated, and something swear...

But when it is offensive to the referees themselves, then that is over-stepping the line...

 

Refs have bad games, just as much as players have bad games... players get off lightly with the abuse the receive however...

 

To think I once considered becoming a referee too... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

[Krooner]

Go Kaiser you know it makes sense.

[Kaiser Jnr]

Ill prob be a better referee than player... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

[Krooner]

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Kaiser Jnr said:
Ill prob be a better referee than player... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I didn't. Sh1t at both. <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

[coach et 64]

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Kaiser Jnr said:
Ill prob be a better referee than player... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

competent in both cases but not that quick...who cares?it's the speed of thought that counts in the end <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

[Kaiser Jnr]

i think you are calling me slow coachie... I am close to biting... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/cheeburga.gif" alt="" />

[TB&G]

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EMFC said:

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Trueblueandgold said:

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Krooner said:
Not going to comment on your match EMFC as I clearly wasn't there.

In some games I officiate at I know a lot of the players and sometimes it can be from 1 side and not the other. From a player/coach side of things how do you think I should handle it. Should I call them by their names or pretend I don't know them. this is a serious question and I would like serious answers. Cue Kaiser and Smallsy.

Altho not directly involved in the particular point in hand I do feel qualified to make comment as my team have suffered many times this season from what appeared to be over dramatic refereeing decisions.

In my view Krooner when you officiate in a game where the club or certain players (perhaps even on both sides) are involved are known to you socially you should appear to behave as if you have just arrived from outer space and know nothing about the environment in which you are spending the next two hours or so of your life and if anyone who is known to you on either side attempts to make personal contact in any way whatsoever you should treat him as tho you do not know him which (if he has any sense)he will respond to by intelligently understanding the difficult situation his action may be putting you under.

I agree but I also think refs should beforehand talk to the management set up of both clubs to break the ice. I also think when they do their walk around before the game and the players are out there they should just stop and chat. I tell you when refs do that you think at least you can talk to them. I make a point of going into the dressing room before each game and shaking the officials hands. I don't pre-judge them but as a club we sometimes feel we are pre-judged.

TBG was you at the game when you beat us 6-2? The ref didn't influence the game but I was chatting to some Romford fans and we all agreed the ref was shocking.

Yes I was EMFC but I have got so used to cr*p refs this season it all went over my head.

Having said that I believe in the old Brian Clough adage that the ground 5 metres around the ref is inviolate and I can't help feeling that if players just got on with the game as much as possible instead of having goes at the refs who are mostly out of their depths anyway he/she wouldn't feel under so much pressure and get things wrong as much.

[oldandmoody]

Poor refs are part of the game. It gives us something to moan about in the bar after games. What annoys me is when players use refs mistakes as excuses for their own poor performances. Increasingly players think it is everyone elses thought if they mess up and don't like being told the truth.

[kattyann]

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Kaiser Jnr said:
i think you are calling me slow coachie... I am close to biting... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/cheeburga.gif" alt="" />

I think he was implying something else, but hey......

[Krooner]

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Kaiser Jnr said:
i think you are calling me slow coachie... I am close to biting... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/cheeburga.gif" alt="" />

I think he was implying something else, but hey......

A thread about officials and a woman. Where is Mike Newell when you need him. <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

[kattyann]

behave yourself krooner or i will go off on one again!

[Kaiser Jnr]

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Can someone tell me what he was implying then... I dont understand... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/bawling.gif" alt="" />

[kattyann]

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Kaiser Jnr said:
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Can someone tell me what he was implying then... I dont understand... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/bawling.gif" alt="" />

mere boy, leave the big conversation to the adults <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

[Krooner]

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Kaiser Jnr said:
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Can someone tell me what he was implying then... I dont understand... <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/bawling.gif" alt="" />

She has lost me Kaiser, but then again she is a woman so no surprise there. <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/angel.gif" alt="" />

[Kaiser Jnr]

ok then.... bye oldies <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/wave.gif" alt="" />

[TB&G]

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oldandmoody said:
Poor refs are part of the game. It gives us something to moan about in the bar after games. What annoys me is when players use refs mistakes as excuses for their own poor performances. Increasingly players think it is everyone elses thought if they mess up and don't like being told the truth.

Funnily enough a thought similar to that crossed my mind on Sunday.

Namely why is it that we as supporters excuse our players who miss an open goal or make a mistake which results in a goal against our team while the ref has to be 100% perfect for the whole 90 minutes plus of the match.

There is an unfairness involved in this disparity of opinion.

[inthemixer]

answer to your original question EMFC. . . .YES.

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as you may have read in my post a little time ago, i feel quite passionate about this topic, i dont play anymore but, i must admit , my decision in quitting the game i adored as a youngster and always wanted to play was helped by the standard of officials! I refuse to take my time out in preparing for games, training, and sticking to strict regimes only for some cnnt to ruin my saturday, the day i prepare all week for.

I always took my football very seriously and found on my way home from games thinking more about why the ref gave that decision, or didnt see what everybody in the ground saw, than focusing on what i could have done to better my game.

alot of people take the game extremly serious, and that is why you get players reacting to decisions in such an animated way.as a player how many times have you lost track of what your supposed to be concerntrating on in your game and lost it, there has got to be at least 1 player in every team that all of his teammates are thinking, please dont let him lose it or our game will be about trying to calm him down than concerntrating on our game. dont get me wrong i could have continued playing but when i thought about the pros and cons of playing, i always see myself with the same puzzled look on my face, yeah you know the 1, after a bad decision by the ref, and that is the most annoying part of why i stopped playing, because of somebody elses inability and standard <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/wall.gif" alt="" />

[Krooner]

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inthemixer said:
answer to your original question EMFC. . . .YES.
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as you may have read in my post a little time ago, i feel quite passionate about this topic, i dont play anymore but, i must admit , my decision in quitting the game i adored as a youngster and always wanted to play was helped by the standard of officials! I refuse to take my time out in preparing for games, training, and sticking to strict regimes only for some cnnt to ruin my saturday, the day i prepare all week for.
I always took my football very seriously and found on my way home from games thinking more about why the ref gave that decision, or didnt see what everybody in the ground saw, than focusing on what i could have done to better my game.
alot of people take the game extremly serious, and that is why you get players reacting to decisions in such an animated way.as a player how many times have you lost track of what your supposed to be concerntrating on in your game and lost it, there has got to be at least 1 player in every team that all of his teammates are thinking, please dont let him lose it or our game will be about trying to calm him down than concerntrating on our game. dont get me wrong i could have continued playing but when i thought about the pros and cons of playing, i always see myself with the same puzzled look on my face, yeah you know the 1, after a bad decision by the ref, and that is the most annoying part of why i stopped playing, because of somebody elses inability and standard <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/wall.gif" alt="" />

Well improve it by becoming a ref then. <img src="/forum/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

[inthemixer]

krooner do you ever go home and analyse your own game as a ref? and do you try to see things as a footballer or as a ref?